RECREATIONAL INTIMACY FOR WINTER
The beauty of intimacy is that it can happen at any time and in place, and winter has the perfect excuse of staying in bed with your partner. After all Mother Nature certainly made it much more appealing with darker mornings and long nights. Getting cosy under the covers with your partner surely feels like heaven; set that with a roaring fire and a movie or two, it’s no wonder then that conception rates are at their highest in December, with more births recorded for September than any other month of the year. It’s like the universe has a big old plan to bring people together especially in the winter months! With so much going on around the Christmas festivities that are now officially in full swing, how can couples stay connected by creating lasting chemistry and intimacy for the season?
TAKE PLEASURE IN THE PLAY
Who said play was just for the kids? Think pillow fights and sledging down hills, ice skating and taking each other for a twirl. The most successful couples have to take time to play; releasing those feel good happy endorphins through a bit of light activity, bonds partners together. Happy couples who play together, stay together.
THE GIFT OF UNWRAPPING
There’s nothing more of a turn-on than what the imagination can create. Send little snap shots to your boo with a cheeky hint to what lies beneath. Imagine using all those layers of winter thermals, vests and long socks to tease your partner into what you two can get up to later on.
HAVE A LIE IN ON LOVE
As you’re both there in bed together anyway, those long nights are useful for sharing each other’s inner worlds. Take time to review your year; did you individually and collectively make your dreams work, and what are your intentions for the New Year? What are your fears and worries? Emotional intimacy helps trust and security grow.
SIZZLE UP WITH SENTIMENTALITY
There’s something adorable and snuggly about creating traditions, whether it be mulled wine at the Christmas markets, carol services at the local church, or festive jumpers to feel silly in – whatever it be that makes this time of year sentimental for you and your partner, indulge with wild abandonment as there’s something about being disinhibited that helps to make the sparks fly.
A COMMITMENT FOR GROWTH
The best paradigm on loving relationships is where both partners make a commitment to grow together. Develop intellectual intimacy by getting an early night in and read pieces from a book or watch a documentary. Maybe you could even do an online course together from the comfort of your bed.
NO ORGASM INTIMACY
Keep sex exciting and build up your desire by having hands only stimulation. Start with a hot oil massage, sensually exploring every part of your partner from head to toe. When ready you can take it further, building up arousal by taking the pressure off that things must end in orgasm… but who knows where it leads!
Abigail Eaton-Masters is a psychotherapist and media psychologist for Channel 5 and That’s Manchester TV. She specialises in women’s mental health and intimacy.
To discover more about Abigail visit her website: AbigailEatonMasters.com